Parenting Styles and Shame vs. Guilt

The Asian American Psychological Association listserv occassionally discusses the differences between shame vs. guilt.  One tends to be considered a more Eastern concept while the other is more often associated with the Western world.

Novelist Kim Wong Keltner, author of Tiger Babies Strike Back, talks about the impact of growing up with shame as a primary parenting tool. 

http://blogs.wsj.com/speakeasy/2013/05/14/tiger-babies-bite-back/

While it may not be productive to conclude whether one style of parenting is "good" or "bad," it may be more useful to look at parenting styles as how effective they are in producing the kinds of results that one is hoping for.  What does the literature say about "tiger" parenting?

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/05/_tiger_mom_study_shows_the_parenting_method_doesn_t_work.single.html

Take a look for yourself. 

Asian mothers

Parenting leads to who are today. How were you raised? Do you believe in tough love? Read about one parent who is proud of using traditionally Eastern parenting methods.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html

This has stirred controvery considering the efforts made to dispel the model minority myth. What are your thoughts about strict parenting styles?